Too many people succumb to the belief that having charisma comes from natural, unteachable traits that belong only to a lucky few. It’s easy to fall prey to this misconception. In reality, being likeable is under your control and something you can improve. Whether it’s on a job interview, or succeeding in your current role, below are 6 habits of extremely likable people that will always come in handy.
- They greet people by name.
Your name is at the core of your identity. Research shows people feel validated when the person they’re speaking with refers to them by name during a conversation. Trouble with names? Make it a brain exercise – and don’t be afraid to ask for a name a second time if you forget right after you hear it.
- They Ask Questions.
During a conversation, most people are so focused on what they are going to say next that they fail to hear the meaning behind what’s being said. A simple way to avoid this is to ask a lot of questions. People like to know you’re listening, and something as simple as a clarification question shows you care about what they’re saying.
- They are patient.
Highly likeable people are aware that all their thoughts don’t need to be expressed, even if they happen to be true. The timing of your words and acts may give you a big advantage over more impatient people. Likable people maintain composure in all circumstances and always remember that sometimes silence can be more effective than angry words.
- They don’t pass judgment.
If you want to be likeable you must adopt an open-minded philosophy. This makes you approachable, which is crucial in the workplace, where approachability means access to new ideas. Likeable people don’t necessarily believe or condone other’s opinions, they simply believe that everyone is entitled to their own ideas. Those who close themselves off from certain ideas are missing out on personal and relationship growth.
- They’re genuine.
Likeable people never try to be something they aren’t. If they don’t know something, they admit it. If they don’t agree with a strategy, they give their honestly opinion. People gravitate towards people who are genuine because they know they can trust them. Being honest will make you a much more interesting person than if you attempt to win people over by making choices you think will make them like you.
- They don’t seek attention.
The truth is, you don’t need to develop a big extroverted personality to be likeable. In fact, people tend to averse those desperate for attention. When you let your positive actions speak for you, you’ll notice people are much more attentive than if you try and tell them you’re important. When you are handed attention, such as being recognized for an accomplishment, shift the focus to all the people who worked hard to help you get there. Paying attention to others and appreciating their help will show you’re appreciative and humble; two things tied closely to likability.
On a final note,
Likeable people are invaluable to any organization. They network with ease, promote harmony in the workplace, bring out the best in everyone around them, and generally seem to have the most fun. Add these habits to your repertoire and watch your career grow!